By Allen White
There are many good reasons to close a small group for a season. But, no group should be permanently closed. Unfortunately, there are also some bad reasons for closing your small group.
1. Our group values closeness.
Developing close relationship should be a high value of Small Groups. Your group is where everybody knows you, unlike the sea of thousands on Sunday morning. But, there is a line where closeness causes a group to be in-grown. The motto changes to “Us four and no more” or “We seven going to Heaven.” The problem is that what was once so great for your group will likely become the death of your group. Over time, members will move away. Schedules will conflict. As your group begins to decline, somewhere around the two year mark, you will find it hard to recruit and keep new members. There’s too much history going on. When it’s all said and done, your group will be done.
Open groups enjoy meeting a steady stream of new prospects. Some will stay. Some will not. And, that’s okay. The core of the group will continue to become close. The new members will start out as the “ministry” of the group, and over time, they will become close-knit as well.
2. Outsiders might upset the rhythm of the group.
People become comfortable with familiar patterns. They sit in the same place. They make the same inside jokes. They even greet you the same way every time. (Pay attention, they do). It doesn’t take long for a comfort zone to become a rut. Then, when prospective members visit, everything is upset. The new folks don’t understand the jokes. They don’t know the routine. They might even sit in your spot. Okay, if you haven’t caught on to where this paragraph is going, please go back and read #1 again.
Your group won’t be the best fit for every prospective member. Every group has a personality. It might be a good idea to “interview” the prospect who is looking for a group or meet with them days before the group meeting. You will get a good sense of whether or not your group will suit them.
I know if people visit my group expecting  “the pastor,” they will probably be disappointed. Our group has a weekly Bible study, but we’re not parsing Greek verbs and digging through commentaries. Our group is led by “Allen, the guy who is a pastor.” It’s not for everyone. When someone asks about our group and I don’t think it would work, I tell them, “You probably wouldn’t like my group. But, here’s a group you would really like.” But, there are people who ask about the group who fit in very well. I do my best to figure that out ahead of time.
3. Confidentiality. Hello!
Confidentiality should always be a very high value in a Small Group. Groups are defeated and often destroyed by loose lips. Anything said in the group should stay in the group, even if you know the other parties involved. You can value confidentiality and include new members. When a new member joins the group, simply go back and review the Ground Rules, Group Agreement, or whatever you call it. The conversation could go something like is: “Since several new folks have just joined our group, I’d like to take a few minutes and review our group’s Ground Rules/Group Agreement. One of the things we value strongly in this group is confidentiality. Anything that is said in this group needs to stay here. Agreed?” If they agree, then you’re good to go. If they don’t agree, then they’re out the door. I doubt that you will need to kick anyone out.    
4. If our group gets too big, then the evil Small Groups pastor will…
What’s the ideal size for a Small Group? Most people will say that a group should be 8 to 12 people. In one church where I served, we had Small Groups from two up to 200. It all works. I don’t think that the number is as significant as what is happening in the group. Can everyone get their word in? Does everyone feel cared for? We all know that when numbers go up, care goes down.
So, how do you care for a group of 200? You sub-group. The group of 200 has a dozen or more table groups. While they open the meeting together and watch a video teaching, they spend the last half of the meeting discussing the lesson in smaller groups. Any group over eight people should sub-group. If only a few people are talking, and others aren’t saying anything, then it’s time to sub-group.
But, isn’t sub-grouping just a sneaky Small Group Pastor way of getting our group to split up? Sitting here at Krispy Kreme with my hand on my electronic Bible, I will pledge to you that “I, Allen White, will never ask your Small Group to split, birth, multiply or divide into a new group.” Here’s what I’ve learned over the years: if a group is good at inviting and including other people, it is stupid for me to limit the size of the group. Why should we handicap groups that excel? That just doesn’t make sense.
So, open up the doors. Invite every living, breathing person that you actually like. Grow your group with the assurance that there is no mandatory maximum number that will put your group into peril.
I hope that you feel challenged rather than threatened by these words. If God has given you the gift of hospitality or evangelism, I certainly don’t want to get in the way of how God can use you. There are a lot of people at Brookwood Church who need you and your group. Pray about who to invite, then pay attention to who crosses your path.